The three critical components of a relationship are:
1. Agreement – something in common
2. Affinity – love, respect, trust
3. Communication
There must be a mutual love and agreement on type of relationship (open, monogamous, polygamous). You must have a desire for a good relationship. Relationships are between two or more people. There are different types of relationships – business, friendship, life mate. Each type of relationship has its own unique requirements. We need to behave in accordance with the type of relationship: employee-boss; mother-child; friend-friend; lover-lover. Align yourself to the type of relationship.
· In a business relationship (contractual) services and love are given with the expectation of a return.
· A spiritual or personal relationship, services and love are given without any expectation or returns.
The goal of life is to be happy without distress or misery. We all have the same God quality and quantity, but different levels of consciousness.
There are two kinds of people when it comes to intimate relationships:
· Celibates – asexual, usually hangout with the same sex
· Householders – sexual, usually hang out with opposite sex
Relationships are the healthiest when the participants are at the same level of consciousness. Once the lust wears off, you’re left with the mind. The strongest relationships are based on spiritual love. When 2 participants in a relationship are too different, one has to surrender or you are constantly fighting. Better to match 2 people with a lot in common, who are more balanced and equal, with the same level of consciousness.
In true love you don’t know who is surrendering because they are surrendering into each other.
Is there a power-struggle going on in your personal relationship? Are you always challenging each other, trying to be dominant and make the other surrender to your will?
Are you selfish or selfless? Do you repulse others with your selfishness or attract others with your selflessness?
In a healthy relationship you have to do what your mate likes you to do and not do what they don’t like. Get your mate to make a list of what they want you to do.
Do you have the same belief systems, Gods, and goals? If there are different levels of consciousness and different belief systems, conflict ensues. Continually disagreement leads to a parting of the ways. If you are always fighting, criticizing, yelling at each other with nothing in common, get a new relationship.
Don’t criticize your mate and if your mate criticizes you, accept it. There is probably some truth somewhere in the criticism. We don’t see our won flaws and faults. We have a blind spot. Therefore, always accept criticism, as there may be some truth to it.
Remember, birds of a feather flock together – have the same beliefs and goals.
Surrender to someone you trust that is smarter, wiser, and more loving that you…preferably God. We
